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COMING OUT TO YOUR CHILDREN

By December 4, 2019 No Comments

LGBT Family Law is the progression of family law, including challenges faced by the LGBT community. Lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender refers to LGBT.

Most couples of the same gender face unique challenges and aspire to live a healthy life and care for their family members daily.

How difficult is coming out to the children for LGBT families?

It is usually considered a difficult task to come out to your children when you belong to the LGBTQ family. There may be some communication gap or some hesitation between you and your children.  However, there must not be any boundary or barrier when it comes to communicating with your children.

If you are LGBT category couple or any of your children belongs to this category, the gap must not be created, and effective communication must be taken into consideration for your family.

In Canada, for example, LGBT families are thriving since 2005 following the enactment of the Civil Marriage Act. The lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender parents raise millions of children. Gay and lesbian children live in most parts of Canadian provinces, and research reveals that these children are happy, healthy, and well-adjusted to their peers for decades. Despite this, there are still some levels of discrimination and restriction on LGBT people.

However, the issue of equal protection under the law cannot be compromised or negotiated. All citizens must be equally recognized and protected by the State. We love to protect the rights of a minority group from prejudice or majority discrimination. Everyone should be subject to the law equally.

LGBT individuals should be treated as their heterosexual counterparts no differently. If the law denies equal protection for same-sex couples and transgender persons, it is unfair, and it breaks the principle of equal protection according to law. We can’t live in a world that’s just because of who you are.

The Supreme Court of Canada has played a vital role in safeguarding and advancing its rights in all the struggles that the LGBT community waged for equality.

The Law on Assisted Reproduction and Substitution is a minefield for those seeking to start a family with non-traditional methods. Same-sex couples generally tend to take a child or to take a substitute to term. Lesbian pairs may have eggs or embryos in common. You can choose substitution or acceptance. The use of the sperm from the known donor may present unusual challenges, in particular about parental rights or the legal paternity of the known donor, of those who decide to use ordinary eggs or embryos with in vitro fertilization.

LGBT Family Law is an exciting new law area that demands a lot of lawyer creativity. In these newly emerging areas of law, there are significant challenges, but we are satisfied to help those who are facing tremendous barriers. We can be creative, make new laws, or extend existing laws into new situations. Legal problems could give the Court an initial impression. We believe that new interpretations of the existing law on new issues involving non-traditional families should be available to the Court.

When and how to come out to your children?

It must be kept in mind that any time is the right time to come out to your children, as a matter of fact, you can never get to your children too early or too late. Talking to your kids as soon as you can is crucial; this is because kids may be more disturbed by perceived disappointment or secrecy than your sexual identity and sexual orientation.

Once you have made up your mind to come out to your children, here are a few simple ways to make the process a smooth ride:

Jot down your points:

Writing down or practicing with someone you trust may be an excellent way to prepare for the talk. Please remember that the introduction of such a new concept can lead to some unexpressed anxiety, especially if your children have not experienced significant exposure or interaction with LGBTQ+ people. You should also be prepared to tackle potential LGBTQ+ stereotypes which your children have known before now.

No script describes precisely what to say, but some basic guidelines have proved useful for other families.

Come out when the child is still tender:

The earlier the information is shared, the better it is shared. Even for a very young child, it is apparent that he/she has two moms or two dads, and over time it will change what this means for them. Hence, coming out when kids are still young helps them to accept parents without questioning or testing. When you let it linger, they will begin to realize the differences between families as they grow older, and their worldview increases. The moment they start to develop an interest in the details about the family history, it is up to parents to provide them with the right and truthful information. It must be prepared according to age so that eventually, the fact that all kinds of family configurations are present is understood and acceptable.

Telling the truth is a fundamental principle in communicating the information, but it depends on your style of communication how it is shared. You can learn about your family’s history through books, films, and child development experts. It is important to remember that this is not a one-time event, but the beginning of an ongoing dialogue.

Your family history must be told and reported during your child’s life, and more information must be added on your journey. Only a parent can set the stage for the family’s feelings and the perception of the family in its circumstances. If you are ashamed, as a parent, you are on the wrong path, and your children will be affected by these sentiments. When you demonstrate pride and boldness, your children will experience happiness and communicate the same with others.

Final words

Family is a family, but the parents who raise a child may or may not be the suppliers of genetics or organisms. The appearance of the family has changed and will change over time. All parents need to respect the fact that the safest path to a healthy and united family unit is open and out with children.

Maturity comes up with time. It is a lifetime process that is evolving and polished over the life cycle. When children are young, they understand things better and differently from when they are grown adults.

Coming to your children requires an understanding of the right age. It is essential to bridge the gap between you and your children, mainly when you belong to the LGBT family. Just remove the difference by taking a positive initiative towards your child.

If you have made up your mind to come out to your children, you do not have to do it all alone. You can talk to an expert who can help you make the process all easier, call 905-366-0202.

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